Hey, it’s been more than a month since I’ve been missing from this writing world, so now, I am trying to pay back and get back on track with my content. So, here it is, the content that I have working on for 2 months.
Firstborn…🥇
Because of this, the content seems a bit longer than usual. So, I’ll divide this content into 3 parts. Here is the list:
- Getting to know Firstborns
- Facts and Common Traits of the Firstborns
- What is the proper way to treat Firstborns
Most of the time, even though we have identical twins and were born in the same family and the same environment, we have very different personalities, interests, and goals. The one thing that impacts our personality and shapes our identities is birth order.
Are you a firstborn? How does it affect you? Do your parents want you to follow their will, or can you do what you like or pursue your passion?
Being a firstborn means having other responsibilities than any birth order or our younger siblings. You might be jealous of your younger siblings because your parents only want you to do what they want you to without really listening to your perspective and decision. And they tend to let your younger siblings do what they want.
That’s why most of the time, firstborns strive and aim for jobs where dedication, strong power, and discipline are needed. It’s because firstborns are born and grow up with pressure surrounding them. When we are still a newbie, the firstborn or the oldest, we try to regain our parent’s attention by pointing up the bad things about our younger siblings to our parents. Sometimes when the firstborn gets a new sibling, they might feel like they are no longer as special as before, and in the long run, it will hurt them emotionally, and they will start to do something to seek more attention. This is proof that the environment does have a connection to building someone’s personality. As you know, kids aren’t born like that. Acts that people surround us do shape and create those personalities, no matter if it’s good or not.
Not only parents but grandparents also put some expectations on their first grandchildren. The older generation tends to overdo everything with the first, giving the ‘first’ a centre position and spotlight, and it often overwhelms the firstborns. Most of the time, the expectation is greater, especially for boys rather than girls. There is one thing that is often misinterpreted by the firstborns:
For the firstborns, it’s very difficult to distinguish between perfectionism vs excellence.
Firstborns try to excel in so many things, and it’s so hard to get out of our comfort zones to take up a new challenge or take risks because most of us are afraid to mess everything up. According to habitsforwellbeing.com, perfectionism is aligned with unrealistic demanding goals, rigid character, overly fear of failure, and defensive. On the other hand, excellence means you’re open to being wrong and taking risks. Perfectionism is about fear, and excellence is about risk.
There are 2 types of firstborn, according to Kevin Leman:
Compliant nurtures + caregivers (mostly are girls)
Tend to please their parents by doing things that would likely make their parents feel happy. This firstborn reassure their parents that “parents shouldn’t need to worry, I can handle that.”
*Parents tend to believe in them and let them take on many responsibilities at home.
Aggressive movers and shakers (mostly are boys)
This firstborn tend to be assertive, goal-oriented and has a strong will.
* I will add another possibility. I think it should be one more. What if the firstborns have these 2? They can be caregivers who are being someone that can deal with house problems but also inside them, they also can have an aggressive character.
On the second page are facts and common traits of the Firstborn.
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