Fact (Pro and Cons)
- Raised with a mixture of trial and error
- Becoming mini-adults or acting as second parents to their siblings
- Tend to outlearn their siblings
- Often be the ones to blame in sibling conflicts and have to be the bigger person.
- Tend to avoid uncertain circumstances when they’re sure they can’t perform well in that area
- Hard to admit when they’re wrong
- Traditional norm: Asian firstborn female role is to support and serve
- A small mistake often leads to full-blown confrontations, and it might make you weren’t a good, dutiful child.
- Suppressed own identity, voice, dream, and passion just to try to make parents happy
- Hard to keep any secrets
- Your siblings can appreciate your existence when your parents don’t understand how the youngest ones feel.
- Having a rival and also accomplices at the same time
- Can treat your younger siblings as your minion
- Have to figure everything out yourself, but you need to accompany your younger siblings until they can pass over the problems.
- Getting your siblings to do the stuff you didn’t want to
- Family holidays are making you tired
- Firstborns usually come at a time when their parents are making less money
- Younger siblings tend to not listen to the firstborn
- Get compared to so many people (it’s like being the firstborn means that you must possess perfect qualities)
** of course, it doesn’t happen to all firstborns, so it depends on your environment.
The common traits of Firstborn:
- Achiever / Perfectionist
Striving for perfection - Natural Leader / Bossy
some of them feel hard to trust people - Diligent / Meticulous
- Serious / Inflexible
- Fear of Abandonment / People-pleasers / Fear of Being Completely Alone
- Teacher / Nurturer
- Fear of failure makes them feel like nothing they had accomplished feels good enough
- Unstable mood / Mood swing
- Fear of losing superiority
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