Not everyone enjoys listening to you and wants to congratulate you on your success. As time grows, we want ourselves to be in a supporting circle. As we grow older, we realize that people come and go in our life, and we tend to become very judgmental towards every people we come across.
There is a saying, ‘Our circle will decide our future and who we are.’ Let’s take this as an example if you want to quit smoking. It would be better to leave your smoker friends. Otherwise, you won’t be able to quit smoking.
Be careful with every one you let into your circle or surround yourself with. Don’t be scared of being labelled as a picky person. You know your parameters and boundaries, and you shouldn’t downgrade your values just because you want to hang out with certain people.
“People can’t choose their parents, but you can select your friends.“
Whatever you want to be, surround yourself with those people or at least those with a community who have the same vision or goals as you. It can’t be easy to reach people with the same interest, but we live in the 21st century and have the upper hand toward our technology to be the first to reach out.
Whomever the people whom we are hanging out with, we will turn ourselves to be a similar person as them. Now, take a moment to answer the following questions:
- Who are the people we spend the most time with?
- Do they appreciate your success and still be there when you need them?
- When you hang out with them, do they only criticise you without helping you find a solution?
- When you meet up with them, does being around them make you tired or motivate you?
- What are your similarities with them? What can you learn from them?
What can you do?
- Drive yourself out of the wrong toxic relationships or community
- Prepare and improve your value and knowledge; read books, attend seminars, listen to podcasts, and subscribe to influential people’s content.
- Limit yourself from using and scrolling your phone, and binge-watch movies or dramas.
- Circle yourself with whoever has the same interest as you or at least whoever can give you a sense of belief and trust that ‘they support you.’
References
How Your Circle of Friends Influence Who You Become | Simon Alexander Ong. (2013, October 29). Simon Alexander Ong. https://www.simonalexanderong.com/2013/10/how-your-circle-of-friends-influence-who-you-become/
Chap, S. (2021, January 6). 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life. Medium. https://medium.com/better-advice/5-type-of-people-who-can-ruin-your-life-1324d973ccc9
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