23 Two Tricks to Stand Up for Ourselves

Being exist in this social world, sometimes makes us forget how to speak and stand for ourselves. As Indonesian, I tend to be very cautious about disrespecting to others, as we still follow traditional rule which is to obey the elders. I believe it’s a one good rule for us, but sometimes it goes beyond that. It makes it tougher to create boundaries because they might think (not only the elders) that we are being disrespectful.

In this 1Minute article, I want to give two tips for creating boundaries without being disrespectful.

Be straightforward with what you can and can’t accept.
Letting people assume and treat you as they please isn’t your option. Don’t be so rude, I mean, when you communicate your boundaries, about what you can accept and what you are not, speak with a friendlier tone, because if you are using high-pitched tone or making such an weird expressions, people might judge you for that.

Ask others, if they want to be respected, then they also need to respect us. Living a good social life means adapting to situations while the “give and take” rule still plays a part. We need to be in tune, to protect our mental health.

Don’t bottle everything by yourself. I agree that we need to focus on our feelings, but on the other hand, we need to able to fix this thing (when it happens). If the other person is argumentative, or we can say, like to talk back, stating your point is your main task, but don’t run away when it’s your turn to listen to them. I know it’s hard, and tbh, I also hate the idea 🤣

Set the rules with how you want to be treated
Treat people with how you want to be treated. If one person makes you feel uncomfortable, and after you tell them, they are still doing it, you need to reconsider whether you want to let them stay within your circle or not.

If someone tells you that you’re over-sensitive or childish, you can tell them that you just want to be yourself and that their actions make you uncomfortable.

Remember, we are the only ones who can decide what’s important to us.

Reference
A. (2023, August 8). How to Stand Up for Yourself – Make Me Better. Make Me Better. https://www.makemebetter.net/how-to-stand-up-for-yourself/