Welcome back to the 1Minute section. In this 23rd episode, we will discuss about; “Are My Friends Truly My Friends?”
How many of us know and understand the people we consider friends? Why do many people dream about having a million subscribers or followers?
Many people believe that the number of followers and subscribers has become a new standard for what we call success.
Why are we seeking validation or a lie disguised as a reward?
In this world of technology, not a tiny population think those numbers can define our worth and reputation. Believe it or not, those numbers differ from what we need to prioritize. Even without a million followers, and with only one unending support, it can help us to keep going through.
Where do we get ‘that’ unending support? Well, there is only one answer for that: from the ‘real friendship.’
Having a genuine connection takes work. We all know that. Both parties need to put the same effort to nurture the relationship. And it won’t work out if only one puts in the effort.
I’m not asking you to stop using online apps, but we must value what’s right and quality more than quantity.
Again, finding friends isn’t a contest.
How can we differentiate between fake and real friendships?
- Is that person can understand and offer emotional support when we need it?
- Does communicating with them recharge us or even make us depressed?
Fake friendship only lasts for a while, and sometimes, it entertains us because we need someone to talk to. We feel slightly better and more comfortable after releasing all our tantrums.
In this fast-paced world, people tend to put aside needy feelings to have a genuine connection, and they tend to prioritize other things, such as careers and even risk their relationships for transactional purposes. It’s hard to form a real connection, and it’s also hard to distinguish which one is our real friend and which one isn’t.
Our ups and downs journey and time will filter out our friends because people come and go in our lives for a reason.
So, how do we start growing our meaningful connection?
- Be authentic, show and be yourself.
We can tell people how we want to be expected and how we want people to value us. - Invest time and effort and be patient.
If you already have your best friends, nurture your relationships and spend time with them. - Drive Yourself apart from the toxic relationships.
Know your boundaries, and take your time to rethink whether you want to stay with those toxic people or not. Being alone is better than staying with negative and toxic people. - Be a good listener.
Don’t just spend time to hear, but be an active listener. Show that you care.
Real friendships are genuinely a valuable asset that not all people have it. Now, you get the proper grasp of which ones are your true friends. It’s essential to know and strengthen existing relationships with the right people.
References
Harsh Truth: Most Of Your Friends Aren’t Really Your Friends – Psych2Go. (2023, August 11). Harsh Truth: Most of Your Friends Aren’t Really Your Friends – Psych2Go. https://psych2go.net/harsh-truth-most-of-your-friends-arent-really-your-friends/
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