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It’s been a while since my last writing in the 1Minutes section, here is another topic that I decided to go a little bit deeper. Hope you can get new insight and useful information from this article.
Have you ever felt comforted when you stand or sit next to a pond or a lake? Or have you ever felt comforted by looking at animals swimming calmly and moving swiftly on water?
Have you ever wondered and imagined yourself, what is it like to live a life to be as calm as those animals? Many of us believe and think that white geese or ducks are symbols of goodness and grace? It’s what many of us believe, we tend to believe what we see on the surface, without considering what may happen beneath the surface. This leads me to bring out a simple topic called “Duck Syndrome.”
Just like its name, duck syndrome is a phenomenon that describes the frantically of looking calm outside even when struggling inside. Duck syndrome is not a mental illness, it’s just a mental health implication, first introduced at Stanford University.
How many of us are trying so hard to look happy and be okay even when we are not okay. Well, have to admit that even, I did that in uncountable numbers. It’s just a part of the pressure and expectations in our society, because we don’t want to look weird, and so uncommon.
Is it really worth it to keep looking ‘okay?’
This okayness can lead to an imbalance between what we are investing in and what we will achieve. Instead of trying so hard to stay afloat and just moving blindly, we need a clear map. Whatever we are seeing on social media, it can be deceiving. What looks cool out there, might be totally different when we see it with a closer look, what we think is glamour and sparkly might seem grey and dull.
No one has a perfect life, each of us just has our own way of making things seem alright. If you feel people can’t understand and relate to what you’re going through, that’s normal, because it’s your life, not theirs, and it’s normal too, if you can’t relate to others, since it’s theirs, not yours.
So, whatever you’re going through, and whenever someone appears different from you, don’t easily try to judge someone’s journey by their achievements, we don’t know their journey, what they risked, what they lost, or even how much effort they put in. Don’t underestimate the challenges of success, set your focus, and don’t always take everything too personally. Because you are the only one who truly cares about yourself.
Last but not least…
I am not an experienced psychiatrist also I don’t have a degree in psychology, I’m just someone, who genuinely hopes you can recognize and pay more attention to yourself as a part of self-care. I’m not perfect and have so many flaws, and I also want you can find ways to accept your imperfections and be comfortable with yourself.
See you in the next article 🙂
References
- Travers, M., PhD. (2024b, April 15). The secret to success is not concealing the effort it takes. Psychology Today. https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/social-instincts/202404/the-causes-and-effects-of-floating-duck-syndrome#:~:text=Floating%20duck%20syndrome%20is%20hiding,our%20well%2Dbeing%20and%20connectedness.
- Moore, M. (2022, May 20). Understanding Duck Syndrome. Psych Central. https://psychcentral.com/blog/teens-the-duck-syndrome#how-to-manage
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